The older we get, the less adventurous we become, because we feel confined the laws of society. Nonetheless, Daddy Bear also plays the role of the strict and controlling father, most probably because his father brought him up in the same way. The father wants his children to be like him, so he tries to teach his children his own traits and habits.
I have removed the names of persons in the dream other than myself for privacy and confidentiality.
We are in our new space which is still being renovated and built. We are discussing a case. That is, it takes a long time to get to the core inner conflict or problem. I now understand that the purpose of the hours and hours of talking is to eventually get to the core wound or conflict.
I had given them 3 different interpretations of a case. Dreams reveal what is going on in the unconscious. They are attempts to communicate to the waking mind something about us, our relationships with others and situations in our lives that we are not aware of.
Carl Jung believed that dreams can offer solutions to problems we are facing in waking life and serve to guide the waking self to achieve wholeness.
Dreams guide personal growth and help us achieve our full potentials. At the time of this dream, the three of us A, B and me, the dreamer were in the process of renting space, building and furnishing offices and selecting sub-lessees for the new practice.
So the dream did come at a time when I was undergoing significant changes and trying to discern and sort out my path. The Reality A little over one year from the time of this dream, this very scene played out in one of our case conference sessions. However, this blog is not about interpreting or addressing the dream in that context, only to point out that dreams often pick up on what is unconscious or unrecognized in a person, a family or a group sometimes months in advance of the situation manifesting in reality.
In other words, the state of my world reflects the state of my mind. The outer mirrors the inner. What is unconscious or unrecognized in the various systems gets acted out and create conflict and suffering.
Shamanic Journey to Consult with my Shamanic Tribe I journey to the upper world to seek the consultation and advice from my tribe. I join them for a while in the drumming. They then ask me why I have come. They return and the leader says: She likes to make things hard, more complicated.
She is always digging deeper and deeper, never satisfied.
It is too much work for her. So she feels minimized in you sometimes, not smart enough, and judged. She is the part of you that hides behind your fears of being wrong and not good enough, of upsetting people, yet it is the part that tries to keep everybody happy by meeting all their needs, accommodating them, making sure that everything is taken care of.
With that they pick up their drums and join the drumming. The Associations One of the ways to get at the meaning of a dream is to gather personal associations to the various images in a dream.
Associations are thoughts, feelings, and memories, and anything else that spontaneously come to mind when reflecting on a dream image. She is always digging deeper and deeper, in order to become satisfied. Amplifications Before I offer my interpretation of this dream, let me do some amplification.
Amplification is gathering information from other sources that adds additional meaning to the dream by realizing connections existing between the dream and similar themes in mythology, fairy tales, religious practices or beliefs and universal symbols.
On the Numbers 3 and 4 Let me begin by looking at the numbers 3 and 4. There is a reference to the number 4, i.The Goldilocks Handwriting Competition.
Here is the fun bit – I’m going to tell you what kind of handwriting Goldilocks would have had and if you can find a handwriting that fits the bill, email it to me (with the relevant permission) and I will use it here to illustrate Goldilocks’s handwriting.
"Goldilocks and the Three Bears" (originally titled "The Story of the Three Bears") is a 19th-century fairy tale of which three versions exist. The original version of the tale tells of a badly-behaved old woman who enters the forest home of three bachelor bears whilst they are away.
Freud developed a theory of how our sexuality starts from a very young ages and develops through various fixations. If these stages are not psychologically completed and released, we can be trapped by them and they may lead to various defense mechanisms to avoid the anxiety produced from the conflict in and leaving of the stage.
The Goldilocks Handwriting Competition. Here is the fun bit – I’m going to tell you what kind of handwriting Goldilocks would have had and if you can find a handwriting that fits the bill, email it to me (with the relevant permission) and I will use it here to illustrate Goldilocks’s handwriting.
Freud says there is a period of sexual calm more interested in school, hobbies and same-sex friends and without any conflict at this stage. Finally, there is the genital stage from puberty on.
And then there is a revival of sexual interest and maturity and creation and enhancement of life.
Like Freud, Erikson believed that toilet training was a vital part of this process. Erikson believe that learning to control one’s body functions leads to a feeling of control and a sense of independence.